About Mamayourmissed

There are more humanistic people than you think. ;) I know what you are going through because I have been there, I know what it is like to feel alone in this world. There were people there for me( not my family) when I needed them and I am sure when the time comes, you will do the same for someone else. Just remember:  nothing is impossible, it just seems that way! LOL :) When you feel overwhelmed, take a step back, take a break - then when you are rested, come back to the problem and get a new perspective on it. You'd be amazed at what a good night's sleep can do for someone! Also, never stop learning and never let anyone stand in your way. Go around them! :D There is always a way! Have faith in yourself - becuase you can accomplish anything you set your mind to!

happy easter and Thank god there are humansitic people in this world who appreciate the meaning of Easter, new beginnings, hardships and how they may seem impossible to get thru but with help and care we always will.  God Bless and I am learning from your advice. Your time and efforts are appreciated.

I am glad I could help. Honestly, I just wrote what I felt.

When (Hubby) :p decides to stop paying, go to child support and file the documents necessary to get him in to court and have a warrant issued for his arrest. His wages should be garnished anyway. This way, when they find him, they wil arrest him and throw him in jail until he can pay - believe me, he will come up with the $ ASAP!

Another thing, since you were married over 10 years you are entitled to HIS Social security benefits - retirement, disability - its called survivor benefits I think.

exspouse disability benefits

childrens benefits from a disabled parent

You are right in thinking the way you do, he does intend to hurt you every step of the way, with no regard to your daughter. To him she is simply collateral damage. You don;t have to ask him for anything - that is what the courts are for - to demand that your daughter gets what she needs. It is impossible to raise a child on one income. Not onyl that he has an obligation to maintain your lifestyle while you were married.

As for your daughter, she will draw her own conclusions. When she is older, be honest with her, because she will ask, they always do. Don't try to hide the truth from her. For now, though, explain to her that daddy does love her, but you and he have differences. You are right, she will never settle!

Do not pay attention to your family. Ignore them. Just because you share DNA does nto mean you are family. A family is a group of people who share the same beliefs, accept each other for their differences, support each other through the good AND bad times, and offer guidence when one goes astray. They do NOT tear down, belittle, or demean others simply because they can. You alone knows what is right for you and your daughter and you alone can give her that. Do what you need to do to get an income to support yourselves and get out of that environment - it is not healthy for either one of you.

One last thing, learn to say NO. It is a simple word, but very powerful. It can stop people in their tracks. NO, I will NOT be treated this way. NO, I will NOT allow you to talk to me and my daughter this way. NO, I will not be a punchline to your cruel joke. No, I will NOT let anyone treat me like I am less than human.

You deserve better, now, start treating yourself like you do!

Today is Easter, a time of rebirth and renew. Spring brings new life. Today is the first day of your new life. Grasp it, and hold on to it. Be blessed, Keri.

good morning.  Please go on my page to read my reply. I somehow posted a very long letter written in reply to your letter on my own spce.  If you dont see it please let me know and i will just retype it.   Thanks again.       keri

Hi Keri,

You have to believe you are an incredible woman, there is nothing you can't do! Yes, you have suffered, but that will never stand in your way. You have conquered so many obstacles, so far, why do you let these small minded people trample your spirit? I have only 2 words for them - sorry, I can't repeat them here!

I don't know why people are allowed to suffer, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I do know that it does make you stronger. You have to know that your mom is in a beautiful place: no more fear, pain, or suffering. She watches over you with love. She is profoundly proud of you. She is with you always. She wants you to move on: get up, dust yourself off, and get moving. 

So how do you begin?  

Firsat of all you have custody. Is hubby paying support? If not, why not? Go to Child support and get it.  Make sure you get medical support and alimony for you, too! 

Now I know that takes awhile, so in the mean time, apply for social services - just until you get a job. Which by the way, they can help you find a job as well! 

here is the contact info for social services in your area:

Northampton County Assistance Office
201 Larry Holmes Drive
P.O. Box 10
Easton, PA 18044-0010

Phone: 610-250-1700
LIHEAP 610-250-1785/6
FAX: 610-250-1839

and you can apply online as well!  

I can understand living with relatives- so you  have to find a new place to live! Social services may be able to help with this as well. But you can also check HUD

Subsidized housing is based on your income - the lower your income, the lower your rent.

Also for food, clothing or other misc. you can always check with the red cross in your area (online) they have a listing that you can search through to find exactly what you need.

Good luck! I know you can do this!